Tuesday, October 19, 2021

ANCESTRY TIDBITS AND SURPRISES by Cheryl Pierson

Several months ago, I blogged about starting on my “ancestry” journey. I gave myself a subscription to Ancestry . com, and voila! I was on my way!

I had put off doing that for a long time because I was afraid it would be too expensive and would take up too much time. I was wrong on both counts! I got my membership for only $59 during a Mother’s Day special, and as for time—you can spend as much or as little as you are able. I find myself just browsing through my ancestors, and learning things that one day, I hope to sit down and write into a linear genealogy “book” or journal.

What makes this so fascinating for me? Probably because family, to my mother and her generation, was everything. And my mom, being the oldest of 11 kids, was charged with “remembering everyone” – sort of like Aunt Pittypat in Gone With the Wind. So to her, it was very important to pass on family history and stories she’d grown up with.

How I wish I had paid more attention! When I write my books and novellas, I do find myself including some of the stories she told us in those writings. But seeing pictures of some of the people I’ve heard her talk about has been such a revelation. And I’m not sure why, but seeing their handwriting has somehow been almost spiritual for me…maybe because I write all my work in longhand in notebooks before I enter them on the computer. So seeing the handwriting of my ancestors lets me imagine them with a pen (or quill) in hand, writing their names—and on the census reports, imagining them writing their children’s names and ages.

Just picturing the point in their lives in these milestone documents—marriage licenses, military registration cards, death certificates, census documents—even some personal letters that have been included are slowly but surely bringing these long-ago relatives to life for me.

My mom's parents, Mary McLain and Tom Stallings, when they were 'courting'--this would have been around 1918 or so. These are my grandparents--my granddad died when I was 10, and my grandmother died when I was 16. (My granddad, Tom, is the son of John Stallings and Emma C. Ligon Stallings that I will mention later on.)

This is the page from the 1860 Census for Smith Co., Tennessee. My great grandfather, John Stallings, was only 2 years old. From this record, we can note his father is not in the picture, only his mother, Sarah Hale Stallings. Evidently, she was living with a relative—most likely a brother, Richard Hale, who is 5 years older than she is. There are two other children with the last name of Wooten. I’m anxious to research this part of the family. My mother told me many stories about John Stallings, who was her grandfather, my great grandfather.

John grew up and became the headmaster at a school, but he had a temper. The story goes that he was heavy handed with the paddle on one of the students, and had to “get out of town” quickly—but when he did, he did not go alone. He took my great grandmother with him and they eloped! That was when they left Tennessee and headed for Oklahoma, settling in the southeastern part of what was then Indian Territory.

John B. Stallings, my great grandfather, and Emma Christiana Ligon Stallings, my great grandmother.

There have been some surprises, too! I discovered that my grandmother’s oldest sister was born out of wedlock. Another couple who had lived together as man and wife and raised 11 children together were not legally married until the last child was in college.

My grandmother, Mary born 1900; oldest sister Maude born 1886; sister Byrdie born 1896, sister Grace born 1894. Mary is my father's mother.

This is a truly fascinating journey, and I’m always anxious to “get back to it” again whenever I can. I have a lot of work and ‘refining’ to do on my family tree, but oh, the discoveries I’ve made and look forward to making in the future!

On my father’s side, using documentation that has been added by other relatives on their trees, I’ve been able to trace my 8th great-great grandparents back to England and Ireland. Now that I know that, at some point, I will pay the extra money for access to global records and see how much farther back I can go.

Have you ever traced your family ancestry? Did you find a surprise or two? Doing this has inspired me with a couple of really great story ideas!

19 comments:

  1. I should have mentioned that the census reports HIGHLIGHT your person you're searching for along with family members so you don't have to try to stumble through all those entries and find what you need. Those census documents have been a real godsend in this ancestry exploration.

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  2. Yes, I found a lot of surprises. So fascinating. Glad you took the journey!

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    1. Vicky, I'm still so amazed at what I have learned SO FAR and I'm not nearly done yet. All kinds of wonderful surprises and this has really made these people so real to me. Mom told me lots of stories about them, but seeing their pictures and reading other things about them has brought it all so much closer to me.

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  3. A most interesting article, Cheryl.

    The odd thing I turned up in my families'' history relates the the Civil War. The family settled in Missouri about 50 miles west of St Louis and just north of the Missouri River. It was a large family in the 1860s, but there is not a scrape of mention of the Civil War in letters, dairies, etc. Its like it didn't happen.
    I've researched the family and the nearby town in the early 1940s as background for my current WIP, "Hunters' Island." Much help has been provided by my surviving uncle who was a young boy at the time.

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  4. That previous enetry was sent by Gordon Rottman.

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    1. Gordo, isn't that amazing about how they never mentioned the Civil War? I mean, one of the most major events of our country and they lived through it and never said anything? That is just incredible, isn't it? I found where one of my great great grandmothers had applied for my great great grandfather's Civil War pension and the affidavit written by someone who knew him and fought with him. So many interesting things I have found--even a discharge paper from the War of 1812 is in there--I just saw it and need to figure out who that belongs to...I get so excited about every little thing. LOL

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    2. I have an autograph book that belonged to one woman in the family from the time she was in a ladies' seminary until she died when her son was about two. No specific reason is given for her sickness, just wishes for her recovery. Some of the writing is fading due to the ink, but other ink is still dark. I also have the small photo album of another ancestor. I love this stuff !

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    3. Caroline--that is sooooo cool! I think, sometimes, I enjoy the handwriting more than the pictures--or at least AS MUCH as the pictures. that is a treasure. I have a picture (tintype) of a family member--no clue who he is now--that I would dearly love to find out the identity of. I took a picture of it and sent it to my aunt when she was working on all this, but she didn't know who it might be either, and we just tried and tried to read the name that was on it--faded, worn, not legible in the end. He was related to us somehow. I hope someday to learn who he is.

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  5. I validated family stories as truth through my research into my dad's side of my family. In the Civil War, the family split. The one southern supporter brother changed the spelling of the family name. The northern supporters changed their religion from cathic to Methodist.

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    1. This happened in my husband's family too, where things were so turbulent in West Virginia. I'm assuming it was when WV split from VA and the old, established spelling of PEARSON was changed by the faction that eventually became my husband's ancestors to PIERSON.

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  6. A fascinating journey, Cheryl. My wife Marcy has been exploring hers for the past couple of years, and has been able to document her Metis roots well enough to be officially accepted as a Canadian Metis. Her white roots trace back to the Mayflower.

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    1. That's great! I'm still on the search for enough documentation to prove our NA heritage. It's really tough, since they didn't want to sign up for the Dawes Rolls. Also, spellings of names were changed and I've found a lot of different spellings for names for MANY of my ancestors, even the last names, as well. Lassiter, Lasiter, Laseter, Laceter---SIGH. But I'm having a lot of fun working this giant puzzle.

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  7. Cheryl, I've compiled three family books and written articles for several genealogy journals. My mother-in-law asked me to put together a book about her life for her grandchildren. We had that printed, then had to have more printed because her siblings and nieces and nephews wanted one. Then I had to do one for my mom because they were in the same Sunday School class and what we did for one we did for the other to avoid rivalry. LOL My dad had asked me to write about how his family came "here" but I didn't get it complete before he died. I hate that. I love finding new details that bring the people to life. I have collected photos from anyone who will let me scan them. Once this hobby gets in your blood, you're a goner! :)

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    1. Oh, you are soooo right. I love doing it and my Aunt Marilyn was the one who really got me interested and got me started on it. Ancestry . com has been such an invaluable tool and we are so lucky to live in this day and age where we have the internet to aid us in our searches! Those books you did sound wonderful! I know your mom and m-i-l appreciated those so much. My mom would have loved something like that, too. Well, get ready, my friend. I have a feeling I'm going to have ALL KINDS of questions to ask you! LOL

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  8. Very interesting content, Cheryl! Thank you for sharing.

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    1. My pleasure, Mark! I have become addicted to the Ancestry site. LOL So much to learn.

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  9. Yes, I've gone back and researched my ancestors, if only to verify the stories I heard growing up. I can tell by some family 'traits' where I get my personality. LOL. I jump over to family when I take a break from digging into the women doctor stories. Oh, the things we learn. Thank you for sharing your family with us. Doris

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    1. Doris, I have barely touched the tip of the iceberg. You know, it warms my heart to think of all the things I have yet to discover! I want to just make a big notebook of stories that I remember from what Mom told me and pictures (very rare!) and facts to be found on the Ancestry site. I think that would be great to have as far as being able to complete 'the whole picture' -- Just so much fun and so interesting. Glad you are doing it too and making some discoveries. It's really amazing, isn't it?

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  10. It's amazing what you find about your family. My cousin did an extensive search on her mother's (who was my mother's sister)family. It went back to the 1300s and was great. I did some on my father's side through his mother. I found out I was related to royalty but was disappointed to learn that my royal relative was hung for treason.

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